Another show I watch from time to time is The Voice, which is probably the nicest audition show on TV. Everyone who competes gets a fair chance, as the judges cannot see them while they sing. Malcolm Gladwell details in Blink how the introduction of blind auditions revolutionized classical music by giving women a fair chance at orchestra positions they were previously denied.

When the judges spin in their iconic red chairs, they offer praise to the winners and advice to the losers. No one gets made fun of, and no one is meant to feel like they aren’t worth the judge’s time.

Most of all, each contestant is validated for their personal story and for their vocal efforts. Are you as careful to listen to others and to treat them with fairness in real life as the judges of The Voice are in their “reality” show? It’s a lot harder to do, but it’s even more worth it.